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Emily Wessel

Hi! I’m Emily Wessel, I design fun-to-knit patterns and helpful technique tutorials. I live in Edinburgh, Scotland with my husband and two kids, where I like to run, knit, learn languages, and hang out with friends. I am co-founder and designer at Tin Can Knits -


  1. Ophelia
    December 24, 2016 @ 5:09 pm

    I’m very late commenting here, but I wondered if you had any thoughts about what to do with these hopeful handknits if, after a long and heartbreaking journey, you’ve accepted not having children. I have crates of handknit baby clothes and handmade toys that I created with a hopeful heart. They are lovely, and I would have loved to have used them with a child of my own. However, after a long journey, and for complicated reasons, I know I won’t be able to do so. I am not sure my heart could take seeing them on a friend’s child or used by a niece or nephew, and I certainly don’t want to throw them away. Most donation locations only accept newly purchased toys and clothing, and I can’t imaginge donating them to a thrift store to be sold off for a dollar apiece after all the love and time that I spent making them. I am overwhelmed by this decision, but I know I can’t continue storing crate upon crate of baby things for a baby who will never be mine. I would appreciate any insight or advice, and I so appreciate you broaching this complicated idea of knitting in hope.

    • alexaludeman
      December 28, 2016 @ 2:25 pm

      Hi Ophelia – what a tough question. I think, for me, if I couldn’t bear to see them on another child, I would donate them to the thrift store. Even if they are sold for a dollar a piece, it doesn’t mean the person purchasing them won’t value them and appreciate the love you have put into them. Just my thoughts, and I wish you luck in your decision.

  2. Sammi
    April 29, 2015 @ 10:04 pm

    My best girlfriend lost a few precious babies before she was full term. When she told me she was pregnant the first time, I started a cross stitch that was gorgeous, but was super reluctant to finish once we received the bad news that she wasn’t going to carry to full term. I managed to finish it and hang it in my baby’s room – sent her a photo and told her she would get it when she had a baby in her arms. And she did – a little sweet girl who is one in a couple of weeks. Never ever give up hope.

  3. Hazy
    April 26, 2015 @ 6:32 am

    This is a beautiful post. I have mostly given up on my own hope for a family but found out recently that I am to be an aunt. I had worried about knitting too much before the due date (November) but your words have helped me.

  4. Gunni
    April 25, 2015 @ 1:59 am

    Wonderful to read your post. 40 years ago I lost my first child a daughter and I had knitted a few baby things. But 3 years later we had a baby boy who is now a young man 37 years. I still knit and hope for grand babies some day. Look forward to your next post. Thank you Emily.

  5. Dorothy B
    April 24, 2015 @ 9:02 pm

    What a wonderful post! So true and so moving for women of all ages and varying circumstances.

  6. Nancy HILL
    April 24, 2015 @ 5:42 pm

    What a beautiful and poignant post!

  7. Melissa
    April 24, 2015 @ 12:11 pm

    What a beautiful post. Thank you so much for sharing your story and your thoughts.

  8. chopkins2011
    April 24, 2015 @ 11:45 am

    I was so thrilled to see your little boy lying on a Vivid blanket. I have one in the drawer ready for my next grandchild (due in four days time!!) and have posted a photograph of it on my blog today.

  9. Sara Crafts
    April 24, 2015 @ 5:10 am

    <3 We tried for 24 months before conceiving. While waiting, I did knit some gender neutral things, but it depended on my mood. Some months I was hopeful and enjoyed knitting those teeny tiny things and other months were full of tears and the baby knits were shoved down to the bottom of my work basket.

  10. Jules
    April 24, 2015 @ 3:56 am

    Lovely post it reminded me of my first child who came along 8 weeks early and very small. I remember vividly hoping sometimes against hope of the day I could take my baby home.

    Yes he did have handknits, very tiny jumpers I think I followed a pattern for dolls clothes.

  11. Tess
    April 24, 2015 @ 1:14 am

    This post really touched me. Keep on writing your beautiful blog!

  12. Claudia (rav knittingmylife)
    April 23, 2015 @ 6:53 pm

    What a sweet and insightful post! I hope that my daughters will wait (2 are still teens) to reproduce but I’ve already begun the granbaby knits. I also hope to be alive and well should grans appear but the future is guaranteed to none of us.

  13. SonjaKuvikLoyd
    April 23, 2015 @ 6:50 pm

    Thank you for the tip on when you are a gramma don’t rush to have your children produce more,I wont… I have 3 boys and 1 girl ,My daughter had a hard time conceiving and then came Mckenzie Lee,.It was the moment of joy when they were all born.I am so happy for You and your family.Max is a little cutie and He has a beautiful head of hair.I would love lots of grandchildren,but your right in time, whether they do or not,they’re plenty of others who would love a knitted something.I am thankful for my family as it is.

  14. Kacie
    April 23, 2015 @ 3:30 pm

    This is such a beautiful and hopeful post! Thank you! My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for almost four years and have had four miscarriages. I’ve just recently started knitting some baby sweaters of my own to bolster my own hopes for the future. I may need to add in a few more of these sweet patterns!

  15. kaydeerouge
    April 23, 2015 @ 2:58 pm

    A lovely and brave post – I wholeheartedly endorse what you say about how incredibly lucky those women are in wealthy parts of the world to have access to good and safe contraception. And, yes – I agree too that despite all this “choice”, having babies is still a natural lottery, – too much pain and sadness and disappointment for too many. But yay – let’s own our hope! BTW your little Max is just gorgeous.

  16. Joyce Wood
    April 23, 2015 @ 2:37 pm

    Thank you for saying all the things I could never express. I have two lovely grown children and a grandchild and another on the way. I have also experienced the loss of 2 babies in miscarriage and the pain is still real. Babies are gifts and should always be celebrated so knit away ladies! A new life always needs to be warm.

  17. Rachel
    April 23, 2015 @ 1:37 pm

    What a brave and inspirational approach to life this is. I am half Jewish and have totally inherited that superstitious fear of the jinx. That idea that you never let the gods see you too happy. But your way is better. I was just reading about the power of letting the universe know what you are hoping for–just putting it out there. It’s such a brave way to live.

  18. zeta (
    April 23, 2015 @ 12:43 pm

    For me, knitting baby things (presents for my friends babies) and at the same time not being able to conceive, was very painful. Maybe because I wasn’t knitting for my baby….

    • alexaludeman
      April 23, 2015 @ 2:50 pm

      Hi Zeta – Knitting is a process, stitch by stitch, so I can see how it could come to be a reminder of what isn’t instead of hope for what may be. Best of luck and thanks for sharing.

  19. Cathy
    April 23, 2015 @ 12:31 pm

    This is a beautiful post. Thank you! And, congratulations on the birth of beautiful Max!

  20. Elizabeth
    April 23, 2015 @ 12:26 pm

    I love this post. Thank you for writing it, for helping us all to think about the love and loss and pain and hope wrapped up in babies. And,of course, for your gorgeous baby patterns! I love dressing my sweet Lucy in her Flax. She’s almost grown out of it so time for a new one soon.

  21. Ms. Cleaver
    April 23, 2015 @ 11:31 am

    While I was very fortunate to get pregnant soon after we starting “trying” I didn’t knit or sew anything until late in the pregnancy, because I was afraid I’d somehow “jinx” it. But its interesting how we all react to the hope vs. fear spectrum of the unknown.